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Episode 36: I Love me

Today we talk about mental health, acceptance and self love… the road of happiness.

We talk to writer Sara Radin (IG: @sararradin) about her struggles with anxiety, discovering balance and self acceptance.

We also talk to Suzy Daren (, a yoga psychotherapist based in Brooklyn, NY. She tells us how she found balance in her life and how she helps her clients to find it too. She gives us tips on how to treat ourselves, find happiness and self love.

Vanessa Valerio is your host and producer. You can see her live in her monthly comedy show in New York, Party Of Two.

Music is produced by Pavel Rivera.

Episode 35: What is Asexuality?

On this episode we learn, thanks to Domina Franco and Danny Artese, what asexuality is. Danny tells us about his journey discovering his sexuality, and Domina educates us on all things sex.

Danny Artese is the host and producer of the New York City-based storytelling series The Day I Should Have and his stories have appeared on Risk! and Yum's the Word.  You can follow his storytelling adventures on Instagram @DannyTellsStories or say hello next time you see him in person!

Domina Franco is a sex educator, coach and writer who has been studying human sexuality for over 20 years. You can get in touch with Domina via her website: and on social media @domina_franco.

You can find more about asexuality on

Our music is by Pavel Rivera. And our producer and host is Vanessa Valerio.

Episode 34: Love Talk Live in Denver

In January 2019 we turned 3 years old! And we celebrated it with a fun show in Denver, CO. This episode is the start of our season 3, and it is the Love Talk part of our live show on January 17th in Denver, Colorado.

Vanessa reads emails from listeners and asks your dating questions to the Love Panel, this time the panel expert guests are Erika Ettin, founder of A Little Nudge, and storyteller Kevin Carlin.

Photo: Jenna McKnight

Music: Pavel Rivera

Ep. 33: Live in LA

Our last episode of 2018 is a portion of our live show at The Lyric Hyperion in Los Angeles, CA this past September. We share stories from Josh Banday, an actor in LA; David Crabb, a storyteller and story coach in LA via NY and Texas; and Sandi Marx, a 7x Moth Slam winner based in New York.

We also talk about or first show of 2019, live in Denver. January 17th at The Buntport Theater. Get your tickets now!

Our show is produced by Vanessa Valerio, our music is by Pavel Rivera and our logo is by Kelvin Chiang.

Thanks for listening and see you in 2019!

Bonus Episode: Talking Love Live in DC

This is a bonus episode!

On our show in Washington DC this April 2018 we had a blast talking love with dating expert Erika Ettin, Other Men Need Help Podcast producer Mark Pagan and comedian Gastor Almonte. It was so much fun that we HAD to share it with you, hope you enjoy it!

This show was hosted by Singleling’s Vanessa Valerio and Singleling’s dear friend the hilarious Cara Foran, producer of The Perfect Liars Club DC.

Music by Twintapes.
Illustration by Maria Jose Figueroa
Special thanks to:
The Black Cat DC
Oyamel Cocina Mexicana.

Episode 27: NO means NO, a consent guide.

The #MeToo movement has changed not only the workplace, but also the dating scene. Getting someone too many drinks on a date, to get a few more kisses out of it is not right. Buying someone a drink doesn’t give you permission to take them home, and seeing a woman with a pronounced cleavage is not a green light for anything. Consent is the only green or red light you should get. Today’s episode is dedicated to teach you and me about consent.


Matty Konrath, a 30-something year old woman living in NYC, who went to a curly hair salon in the neighborhood of Gramercy in Manhattan, and did not get the best haircut… or experience.

Domina Franco, a sex educator, coach and writer who has been studying human sexuality for over 20 years.

For the male perspective we talked with Mark Pagan, who, for personal curiosity, has been studying masculinity for a while and produces the awarded podcast: Other Men Need Help.

We also talked to Jamie Ansley and Courtney Cleman from The V Club.

Courtney Cleman is a New York City based sex + relationship expert. She co-founded The V Club in New York City to help women and men break down the mental barriers that prevent them from having the love life they desire.

Jamie Anslie is a drama therapist. She teaches group and private classes and also leads the Talk Love Chat support group.

The V Club is a space that offers masterclasses that teach women and men everything they need to know about dating, love and relationships to create the love life of their dreams. It currently offers 5 types of classes: How to Get a Second Date, Ladies Come First, Men by Design, The Mature Woman’s Guide to Sexual Health and Relationships and Talk Love: Chat Group.

Your host and producer is Vanessa Valerio.

Our music on this episode is the song “Colorless” by Twintapes.

Today’s episode is sponsored by TukFab, a tuk tuk design and fabrication company.

Episode 26.2 Long Distance Relationships

This week we continue to bring you long distance relationships stories…

I sat down for a coffee in Brooklyn with Adrien Behn, the producer of Strangers Abroad Podcast.  We talked about her podcast, her trips around the world and love.

This time the stories come from:
Keith Mellnick, a photographer and storyteller based in Washington DC. The story he shares with us was performed at the live show Sucker for Love 2016 produced by Story District in DC.
Jude Treder-Wolff is the host and creator of (mostly) True Things, a monthly game and storytelling show in Long Island, NY. She has been featured on Mortified, Risk! and The Armando Diaz Experiment, to name a few. She is now performing her solo show This Isn’t Helping.
And me, Vanessa Valerio… On this episode I tell the love story that changed my life.

I hope you like this one!.. Happy Spring and keep loving!

Ps. If you have a story that you want to share or a question you want to ask our dating experts, send us an email!

Music: Painting Ocean Dreams by Twintapes.
Special thanks to:
Story District  and Kos Kaffe

Episode 26.1 : Long Distance Relationships

Love happens in different ways, and sometimes we end up in long distance relationships... not ideal situations, but what can we tell the heart?... the heart always wants what it wants. 
Tami Gatta is an experienced creative arts therapist in the New York, and today she tells us her point of view of long distance relationships and gives us a few tips on how to keep them alive.
Joe Charnitski tells us about what is like dating in New York... distance might be a make it or break thing. He is a two-time Moth Story Slam winner and has been featured on The Moth Podcast. His solo show Joe Charnitski's Funeral won "Best of Fringe" award on the 2017 Capital Fringe in Washington DC. You can go see his show this October 1, 2018 as part of United Solo Theatre Festival.
Meghann Perry is a certified addiction recovery coach, actor, storyteller and teaching artist. She works with adolescents and adults seeking recovery from addiction, and loves to combine her background in the performing arts and her work with this population in her many projects like Improbable Players, Recovery Storytelling, and the Moving Stories Foundation.

Johnathan Appel started performing comedy while living in Taiwan and has performed most venues in New York City. He also works as an education fellow and teaching artist for “Story Pirates!”.

Nicole Ferraro has performed in storytelling shows all over the east coast, her personal essays can be found at The New York Times, Modern Loss and The New York press. She is the co-host of The New York Story Exchange. Her solo show Why So Much Shame debuted at 2016 Frigid Festival with rave reviews and earned three awards. She produces Art, Humanity and Action, a series of storytelling for social justice and fundraising.
Vanessa Valerio is the producer of Singleling, and is always looking for love stories so if you have one contact us

Music by Twintapes.
Special thanks to:
Happy Hour Story Hour show in New York City for letting us record Johnathan's story.

Episode 25: Love Stories

Love stories… Everyone has one, or will have one.

Elena and Juani, a Venezuelan and an Argentinean whose strong attraction followed them forever. This story is part of Liebes Gluck, a book of love stories around the world written by German journalist Kathrin Werner. This story was recorded over a telephone call, sorry if audio is not great!

Michele Carlo tells us about being hopeful and never stop, no matter what, because every obstacle can be a great opportunity.

David Crabb is a storyteller that after many years living in New York moved to Los Angeles with his husband.

Natasha Price tells us how love sometimes ends up differently of what we expect… and her story is an introduction to our next episode.

Vanessa Valerio is the producer of Singleling, and is always looking for love stories so if you have one contact us

Music by Twintapes.

Special thanks to:

Storytelling at Big Irvs

Speak Up Rise Up Festival

Singleling Second Anniversary LIVE SHOW!

Two years ago we started Singleling, and this January 23rd we celebrated it with a show and party at LPR in New York City.

This show features stories by:

Sydnee Washington and Calvin Cato, stand up comedians in New York and performing for the first time on Singleling.

Sandi Marx, a resident on Singleling, has been on tour with us and has appeared in several of our episodes.

Gianmarco Soresi, storyteller and comedian, returning back to our show with one of the most heartful stories on our entire 2 year series.

This show we wanted to make it different, for this reason we invited Pavel Rivera, the producer of our theme song, and a great musician.

And, as always, the show was produced and hosted by Vanessa Valerio. A dating expert, only because of too much practice.

Special thanks to Alex Tabar and Ramon Cabrera who recorded this show.

Our show was sponsored by PUERTO VIEJO, Dominican restaurant in Brooklyn, LA LOTERIA, Mexican restaurant in New York City and Pleasure Chest, luxury sex shop in New York City, LA and Chicago. Thank you so much to them for the amazing and generous gifts provided to our audience.

And big thanks to you, for keeping us on air for two years!!

Happy birthday to us!

Episode 23: 2017 Story Mix

Its crazy that 2017 is over! This year has been great for Singleling, we went on tour around the East Coast and had sold out shows with some of the best storytellers and comedians of the country. It was a blast! And this episode compiles some of the stories told at these shows: StoryFest, Live Show in Philadelphia and Speak Up Rise Up Festival.

Stories by:

Tarik Daniels

Adam Selbst

Mark Pagan

Anita Flores

Your host is Vanessa Valerio and the music is by Twintapes.


p.s. We hope that this New Year comes with lots of new love stories and happiness. Happy 2018!!

Episode 22: Live Show - Cinder Block Comedy Festival

This episode is an excerpt of our live episode in Bushwick, Brooklyn, NY for the CinderBlock Comedy Festival this past September.

Disclaimer: This show was recorded at a bar, you may listen to some music in the background, so the awesome (or not) pop music is not intentional.

You will listen stories by:

Gianmarco Soresi is a stand up comedian that has won The Moth StorySlam, performed at Caroline’s NY and performs around the east coast.

Whitney Chitwood is a stand-up comedian living in Chicago that has been featured by MoveOn.Org, OUT Chicago and has opened for the likes of the great Eddie Pepitone, Shane Mauss, and Andy Woodhull in addition to performing at Riot LA, FoCoMX, The Hollywood Improv, and the Chicago Laugh Factory.

Gastor Almonte is an award winning storyteller, standup comedian, show producer and host. He has appeared on Comedy Central’s This is Not Happening.  As the host Stoops25tages, a weekly interview series, Gastor interviews various Hiphop artist and comedians.

On this show we had the pleasure of having one of the best dating coaches of the country:

Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, the preeminent online dating coach in the US, and "the new voice of online dating." A Little Nudge has been profiled on NPR, the Washington Post, WUSA9, and Erika is also JDate's leading expert, has been a featured columnist on, and her weekly column syndicated through the Chicago Tribune. Her book, Love at First Site, has also received high acclaim.

Your host, Vanessa Valerio is a Moth storySlam winner, native from the Dominican Republic living in Brooklyn. She performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC. 

Episode 21: Imagination vs. Reality

Sometimes our imagination takes over our mind and creates the story of a person the way we want it. Today on Singleling we talk about imagination versus reality. Stories of when our imagination owns our judgement, which in love happens very often!

Stories by:

Stan Sinberg, an award winning humor writer, satiric radio comedy revue and a regular contributor to blogs and humor publications including MAD and the Weekly World News.

Sandi Marx is a retired talent agent who is now a motivational speaker and spends most of her nights storytelling. She is a 7 times Moth StorySlam winner and her one woman show, You’ll Be Sorry debuted in the Dead Parents Club Festival in 2016.

Greg DeLucia is a writer and storyteller in New York. He is the host and producer of Family Dinner, a storytelling show where people eat Greg’s family famous meatballs while listening to funny stories.

Alia Janine is a comedian and retired adult entertainer living in New York. She is the host and producer of the podcast The Whromones Podcast.

Your host, Vanessa Valerio, is a storyteller in New York. Her solo show Where in The World is Vanessa Valerio is part of the Gotham Storytelling Festival this fall (nov. 4).

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Episode 20: Young Love





This episode of Singleling showcases stories about young loves. The first love that drove us crazy in many different ways.

On this episode:

Courtney Weber is a Wiccan Priestess, writer, Tarot Adviser, and metaphysical teacher living in McMinnville, OR. She is the author of Brigid: History, Mystery, and Magick of the Celtic Goddess and the forthcoming Tarot for One: The Art of Reading for Yourself. She is also the producer and designer of Tarot of the Boroughs, a contemporary photographic Tarot deck set in New York City.

Becca Beberaggi is a NYC based writer, comedian and performer. She has written for Elite Daily, XOJan, Paste Magazine and others, her sketch can be seen on Funny or Die. She has appeared at the Brooklyn Comedy Festival.

Boo Trundle is a novelist and short story writer, a blogger, and a recording artist. Also a seeker of solace through high art, low art, and Eastern philosophy. Gullible, random, exposed, and weighty, as needed. 

Vanessa Golembewski is a TV writer and producer. She hosts a monthly comedy storytelling show called "Before The Internet." You can see her work in The Onion, Above Average, and a bunch of lady magazines. 

Bobby Hankinson is a Brooklyn-based writer, performer and creative.  You can see him hosting the  LGBTQ comedy and storytelling show Kweendom, a TimeOut NY and New York Times Critics’ Pick.

Your host, Vanessa Valerio is a Moth storySlam winner, native from the Dominican Republic living in Brooklyn. She performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC.

Music by