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Bonus Episode: Talking Love Live in DC

This is a bonus episode!

On our show in Washington DC this April 2018 we had a blast talking love with dating expert Erika Ettin, Other Men Need Help Podcast producer Mark Pagan and comedian Gastor Almonte. It was so much fun that we HAD to share it with you, hope you enjoy it!

This show was hosted by Singleling’s Vanessa Valerio and Singleling’s dear friend the hilarious Cara Foran, producer of The Perfect Liars Club DC.

Music by Twintapes.
Illustration by Maria Jose Figueroa
Special thanks to:
The Black Cat DC
Oyamel Cocina Mexicana.

Episode 27: NO means NO, a consent guide.

The #MeToo movement has changed not only the workplace, but also the dating scene. Getting someone too many drinks on a date, to get a few more kisses out of it is not right. Buying someone a drink doesn’t give you permission to take them home, and seeing a woman with a pronounced cleavage is not a green light for anything. Consent is the only green or red light you should get. Today’s episode is dedicated to teach you and me about consent.


Matty Konrath, a 30-something year old woman living in NYC, who went to a curly hair salon in the neighborhood of Gramercy in Manhattan, and did not get the best haircut… or experience.

Domina Franco, a sex educator, coach and writer who has been studying human sexuality for over 20 years.

For the male perspective we talked with Mark Pagan, who, for personal curiosity, has been studying masculinity for a while and produces the awarded podcast: Other Men Need Help.

We also talked to Jamie Ansley and Courtney Cleman from The V Club.

Courtney Cleman is a New York City based sex + relationship expert. She co-founded The V Club in New York City to help women and men break down the mental barriers that prevent them from having the love life they desire.

Jamie Anslie is a drama therapist. She teaches group and private classes and also leads the Talk Love Chat support group.

The V Club is a space that offers masterclasses that teach women and men everything they need to know about dating, love and relationships to create the love life of their dreams. It currently offers 5 types of classes: How to Get a Second Date, Ladies Come First, Men by Design, The Mature Woman’s Guide to Sexual Health and Relationships and Talk Love: Chat Group.

Your host and producer is Vanessa Valerio.

Our music on this episode is the song “Colorless” by Twintapes.

Today’s episode is sponsored by TukFab, a tuk tuk design and fabrication company.

Episode 26.2 Long Distance Relationships

This week we continue to bring you long distance relationships stories…

I sat down for a coffee in Brooklyn with Adrien Behn, the producer of Strangers Abroad Podcast.  We talked about her podcast, her trips around the world and love.

This time the stories come from:
Keith Mellnick, a photographer and storyteller based in Washington DC. The story he shares with us was performed at the live show Sucker for Love 2016 produced by Story District in DC.
Jude Treder-Wolff is the host and creator of (mostly) True Things, a monthly game and storytelling show in Long Island, NY. She has been featured on Mortified, Risk! and The Armando Diaz Experiment, to name a few. She is now performing her solo show This Isn’t Helping.
And me, Vanessa Valerio… On this episode I tell the love story that changed my life.

I hope you like this one!.. Happy Spring and keep loving!

Ps. If you have a story that you want to share or a question you want to ask our dating experts, send us an email!

Music: Painting Ocean Dreams by Twintapes.
Special thanks to:
Story District  and Kos Kaffe

Episode 26.1 : Long Distance Relationships

Love happens in different ways, and sometimes we end up in long distance relationships... not ideal situations, but what can we tell the heart?... the heart always wants what it wants. 
Tami Gatta is an experienced creative arts therapist in the New York, and today she tells us her point of view of long distance relationships and gives us a few tips on how to keep them alive.
Joe Charnitski tells us about what is like dating in New York... distance might be a make it or break thing. He is a two-time Moth Story Slam winner and has been featured on The Moth Podcast. His solo show Joe Charnitski's Funeral won "Best of Fringe" award on the 2017 Capital Fringe in Washington DC. You can go see his show this October 1, 2018 as part of United Solo Theatre Festival.
Meghann Perry is a certified addiction recovery coach, actor, storyteller and teaching artist. She works with adolescents and adults seeking recovery from addiction, and loves to combine her background in the performing arts and her work with this population in her many projects like Improbable Players, Recovery Storytelling, and the Moving Stories Foundation.

Johnathan Appel started performing comedy while living in Taiwan and has performed most venues in New York City. He also works as an education fellow and teaching artist for “Story Pirates!”.

Nicole Ferraro has performed in storytelling shows all over the east coast, her personal essays can be found at The New York Times, Modern Loss and The New York press. She is the co-host of The New York Story Exchange. Her solo show Why So Much Shame debuted at 2016 Frigid Festival with rave reviews and earned three awards. She produces Art, Humanity and Action, a series of storytelling for social justice and fundraising.
Vanessa Valerio is the producer of Singleling, and is always looking for love stories so if you have one contact us

Music by Twintapes.
Special thanks to:
Happy Hour Story Hour show in New York City for letting us record Johnathan's story.

Episode 25: Love Stories

Love stories… Everyone has one, or will have one.

Elena and Juani, a Venezuelan and an Argentinean whose strong attraction followed them forever. This story is part of Liebes Gluck, a book of love stories around the world written by German journalist Kathrin Werner. This story was recorded over a telephone call, sorry if audio is not great!

Michele Carlo tells us about being hopeful and never stop, no matter what, because every obstacle can be a great opportunity.

David Crabb is a storyteller that after many years living in New York moved to Los Angeles with his husband.

Natasha Price tells us how love sometimes ends up differently of what we expect… and her story is an introduction to our next episode.

Vanessa Valerio is the producer of Singleling, and is always looking for love stories so if you have one contact us

Music by Twintapes.

Special thanks to:

Storytelling at Big Irvs

Speak Up Rise Up Festival

Singleling Second Anniversary LIVE SHOW!

Two years ago we started Singleling, and this January 23rd we celebrated it with a show and party at LPR in New York City.

This show features stories by:

Sydnee Washington and Calvin Cato, stand up comedians in New York and performing for the first time on Singleling.

Sandi Marx, a resident on Singleling, has been on tour with us and has appeared in several of our episodes.

Gianmarco Soresi, storyteller and comedian, returning back to our show with one of the most heartful stories on our entire 2 year series.

This show we wanted to make it different, for this reason we invited Pavel Rivera, the producer of our theme song, and a great musician.

And, as always, the show was produced and hosted by Vanessa Valerio. A dating expert, only because of too much practice.

Special thanks to Alex Tabar and Ramon Cabrera who recorded this show.

Our show was sponsored by PUERTO VIEJO, Dominican restaurant in Brooklyn, LA LOTERIA, Mexican restaurant in New York City and Pleasure Chest, luxury sex shop in New York City, LA and Chicago. Thank you so much to them for the amazing and generous gifts provided to our audience.

And big thanks to you, for keeping us on air for two years!!

Happy birthday to us!

Episode 23: 2017 Story Mix

Its crazy that 2017 is over! This year has been great for Singleling, we went on tour around the East Coast and had sold out shows with some of the best storytellers and comedians of the country. It was a blast! And this episode compiles some of the stories told at these shows: StoryFest, Live Show in Philadelphia and Speak Up Rise Up Festival.

Stories by:

Tarik Daniels

Adam Selbst

Mark Pagan

Anita Flores

Your host is Vanessa Valerio and the music is by Twintapes.


p.s. We hope that this New Year comes with lots of new love stories and happiness. Happy 2018!!

Episode 22: Live Show - Cinder Block Comedy Festival

This episode is an excerpt of our live episode in Bushwick, Brooklyn, NY for the CinderBlock Comedy Festival this past September.

Disclaimer: This show was recorded at a bar, you may listen to some music in the background, so the awesome (or not) pop music is not intentional.

You will listen stories by:

Gianmarco Soresi is a stand up comedian that has won The Moth StorySlam, performed at Caroline’s NY and performs around the east coast.

Whitney Chitwood is a stand-up comedian living in Chicago that has been featured by MoveOn.Org, OUT Chicago and has opened for the likes of the great Eddie Pepitone, Shane Mauss, and Andy Woodhull in addition to performing at Riot LA, FoCoMX, The Hollywood Improv, and the Chicago Laugh Factory.

Gastor Almonte is an award winning storyteller, standup comedian, show producer and host. He has appeared on Comedy Central’s This is Not Happening.  As the host Stoops25tages, a weekly interview series, Gastor interviews various Hiphop artist and comedians.

On this show we had the pleasure of having one of the best dating coaches of the country:

Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, the preeminent online dating coach in the US, and "the new voice of online dating." A Little Nudge has been profiled on NPR, the Washington Post, WUSA9, and Erika is also JDate's leading expert, has been a featured columnist on, and her weekly column syndicated through the Chicago Tribune. Her book, Love at First Site, has also received high acclaim.

Your host, Vanessa Valerio is a Moth storySlam winner, native from the Dominican Republic living in Brooklyn. She performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC. 

Episode 21: Imagination vs. Reality

Sometimes our imagination takes over our mind and creates the story of a person the way we want it. Today on Singleling we talk about imagination versus reality. Stories of when our imagination owns our judgement, which in love happens very often!

Stories by:

Stan Sinberg, an award winning humor writer, satiric radio comedy revue and a regular contributor to blogs and humor publications including MAD and the Weekly World News.

Sandi Marx is a retired talent agent who is now a motivational speaker and spends most of her nights storytelling. She is a 7 times Moth StorySlam winner and her one woman show, You’ll Be Sorry debuted in the Dead Parents Club Festival in 2016.

Greg DeLucia is a writer and storyteller in New York. He is the host and producer of Family Dinner, a storytelling show where people eat Greg’s family famous meatballs while listening to funny stories.

Alia Janine is a comedian and retired adult entertainer living in New York. She is the host and producer of the podcast The Whromones Podcast.

Your host, Vanessa Valerio, is a storyteller in New York. Her solo show Where in The World is Vanessa Valerio is part of the Gotham Storytelling Festival this fall (nov. 4).

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Episode 20: Young Love





This episode of Singleling showcases stories about young loves. The first love that drove us crazy in many different ways.

On this episode:

Courtney Weber is a Wiccan Priestess, writer, Tarot Adviser, and metaphysical teacher living in McMinnville, OR. She is the author of Brigid: History, Mystery, and Magick of the Celtic Goddess and the forthcoming Tarot for One: The Art of Reading for Yourself. She is also the producer and designer of Tarot of the Boroughs, a contemporary photographic Tarot deck set in New York City.

Becca Beberaggi is a NYC based writer, comedian and performer. She has written for Elite Daily, XOJan, Paste Magazine and others, her sketch can be seen on Funny or Die. She has appeared at the Brooklyn Comedy Festival.

Boo Trundle is a novelist and short story writer, a blogger, and a recording artist. Also a seeker of solace through high art, low art, and Eastern philosophy. Gullible, random, exposed, and weighty, as needed. 

Vanessa Golembewski is a TV writer and producer. She hosts a monthly comedy storytelling show called "Before The Internet." You can see her work in The Onion, Above Average, and a bunch of lady magazines. 

Bobby Hankinson is a Brooklyn-based writer, performer and creative.  You can see him hosting the  LGBTQ comedy and storytelling show Kweendom, a TimeOut NY and New York Times Critics’ Pick.

Your host, Vanessa Valerio is a Moth storySlam winner, native from the Dominican Republic living in Brooklyn. She performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC.

Music by

Episode 19: Pride Love

To end the month of June we wanted to celebrate love with our beloved LGTBQ community, showcasing some coming out stories by good friends of Singleling. On this episode:

Danny ArteseIn addition to co-hosting A Very Special Episode, Danny Artese has won a Moth StorySlam and performed at Nights of Our Lives and Talk Therapy Stories. He is currently re-reading the entire Sweet Valley High series and chronicling it on

Jamie Brickhouse (three-time Moth SLAM champion) debuted his solo show, Dangerous When Wet: Booze, Sex, and My Mother at the 2017 FRIGID Festival off-off-Broadway in New York City. Ripped from the pages of his critically acclaimed memoir that Interview magazine called “as funny as an evening with Carrie Fisher,” and Paul Rudnick praised as “witty, blisteringly honest, and wickedly intoxicating,” it sparkled under the direction of Obie Award-winning David Drake. It won the "Audience Choice Award," was featured on "Page Six" of the New York Post, was a Theater is Easy "Best Bet," and received rave reviews from NY Theater Guide, Theater is Easy, and Hi! Drama.

Eduardo Llinas is an urban designer from Puerto Rico living in New York.

Tami Gatta is a therapist in New York City. She uses art, drama and storytelling to treat patients whom have suffer from severe trauma.

Music borrowed from Robyn.

Hosted and produced by Vanessa Valerio.

Episode 18 - First Kisses

Today we hear stories of first kisses because for me a first kiss can be the reflection of the chemistry that the two people have with each other… A kiss is powerful and the first kiss is very important and the first turning point of a potential relationship.

Stories by:

Natalie Wall is the creator/producer of “Awkward Sex… and the City”, which showcases comedians with hilarious awkward sexual tales. She writes for Redbook Magazine and specifically for Sex and Relationships. In 2015 she co-founded “Bad Assery: The Woman and Comedy Conference”. She performs stand-up all around New York City and hosts her brand new show “Sex! With your Mom”, the adult sex-ed game show.

Jean LeBec  is a storyteller in New York City, she is a Moth StorySlam champion and performs in shows like Risk, where she will be this June 28th at The Bell House.

Caitlin Brodnick is a performer on Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre's Maude Night. She performs sketch, standup, and storytelling regularly in New York City and Los Angeles. She is a writer for, and a blogger for Huffington Post. Her stories have been featured on the MOTH podcast, and quoted by the AV Club

Music by Twintapes (

Your Host Vanessa Valerio is a native from Dominican Republic and currently lives in Brooklyn, NY. She was trained at the People’s Improv Theater in NYC and has performed all over the East coast. She is a Moth StorySlam Champ and the creator of Singleling. She also co-produces and co-hosts Party of Two, a monthly live comedy show in New York.

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Episode 17 - DC Live Show


This year Singleling is on tour recording live stories in some of the best venues in the country. This past April 1st we had the first one at the Black Cat in Washington DC. With performances by:

CHELSEA SHORTE is a stand-up, writer, actor and storyteller living in DC.

KEITH MELLNICK is a freelance photographer who splits his time between expat and DC living. In between his trips he performs at SpeakeasyDC, Perfect Liars Club and The Moth. His solo show “I’m not Crazy” tells the story about his Peace Corps experience in Kazakhstan.

Dating Expert ERIKA ETTIN will give us a few tips on how to navigate the world of online dating in these crazy modern dating era. She is the founder of A Little Nudge, one of the country’s preeminent online dating coach. She has been profiled on NPR, The Washington Posts, WUSA9 and

JEFF SIMMERMON is a several times Moth StorySlam and GrandSlam winner, a comedian, teacher and storyteller that has appear on This American Life and The Moth’s Podcast. He is the host and producer of “And I am Not Lying”, a variety show in New York City.

VIJAI NATHAN is a comedian that has been featured at the Montreal International Comedy Festival, has performed at the Smithsonian Museum, Kennedy Center, Constitution Hall, Library of Congress and won the Artistic Excellence award from SpeakeasyDC. Her solo shows “Woman on Top: Tips from Mom, Dad and Cosmo” and “Good Girls Don’t, But Indian Girls Do” have gained attention from critics all over.

The Hosts:

CARA FORAN is a Moth StorySlam and Grandslam winner, writer, storyteller and improviser in Washington, DC. She is the producer and cohost of The Perfect Liars Club, one of DC’s most popular storytelling shows, as well as a regular host of The Moth in DC. Her solo show about the perils of dating, “District of Cara”, debuted at the 2015 Capital Fringe Festival in DC.

VANESSA VALERIO is a Moth StorySlam winner that performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC. She is the host and producer of ‘Singleling’, she also co-hosts Party of Two, a live monthly comedy show. She is also a dating columnist for Camara Flash and the Singles Warehouse.

Ep. 16 Online / Offline

Online dating should not be seen as the only way that we find a potential love match, but it certainly is a very good tool that helps do that. On this month’s episode we hear online dating stories, some horrifying and some that fill our hearts with hope.

Guest star:

Pavel Rivera is a musician in Brooklyn, NY, creator of the electropop band Twintapes. He is also a music engineer and producer.

Stories by:

Anita Flores has written for Flama, Above Average, Nerve, Paste magazine, Portable TV, and Laughspin. She’s performed at The Moth, Tom Shillue’s Funny Story, and is currently on tour with Awkward Sex and the City. She has a web series called Questionable Drawings where she asks comedians weird questions and animates their responses, and she is the co-producer and host of Party of Two, a comedy show of dating stories. Follow her on Twitter at @anitajewtina

Chris is a digital marketing expert and technology entrepreneur. His experience spans a wide range of industries dealing with social media, brand strategy and community building, working closely with clients to create unique customer experiences. Chris takes his professional background and applies it to an entertaining look at today's world of dating in his podcast So, We Met Online

Avra Friedman and Daliya Karnofsky are the producers of All My Single Friends, a once monthly comedy show and live dating experience.


Avra is an actor, comedian, writer, and recent LA transplant by way of NYC. As a comic she has opened for Gilbert Gottfried and was the winner of a new talent contest at Gotham Comedy Club, NYC. Avra’s writing, acting, and stand-up have been featured on BuzzFeed, The New Yorker, Super Deluxe, Funny or Die, Elizabeth Banks' WhoHaha, Amy Poehler's Smart Girls, and more.


Daliya performs live and on the web in her original YouTube baking and love advice series “And She Bakes”, seen winning awards at festivals around the country.  Daliya has also toured the world as a monologuist and relationship guru, and performed off-Broadway and abroad with NYC companies Naked in a Fishbowl, New York Theatre Workshop, Witness Relocation, Red Bull Theater, Les Freres Corbusier, and la mama e.t.c., and as a member of the T.S. Eliot US/UK Exchange with the Old Vic in London.  Recent: Celia in the short film Hilde and Celia, directed by Dan Schimpf of Red Hour Films.


Matt and Jen Smith are two Midwestern who fell in love thanks to eHarmony . com

Music by Twintapes @


Ep. 2 - Valentine's Day

Ep. 15 Love Stories

We should celebrate love all year long, but for some reason we celebrate it a bit more intense during February. On this episode Vanessa talks to Kathrin Werner, a German journalist that just wrote a book of love stories, 20 stories from people all over the world.

We hear stories from:

Laura Maltz is an educator and storyteller in NYC.

Vernon Payne is a comedian from Brooklyn, NY. He got his start in Albany, NY in 2008 and since then has gone on to travel the northeast making people laugh with his particular brand of comedy. Vernon has opened for comics that have been on Comedy Central to Fox. Vernon’s diverse stand up goes from talking about growing up, sex, and race. He is a contributing writer to the comic book “Spaz Comics”.

Steven Berkowitz is a MothSLAM winner who teaches storytelling, both for the Moth’s Community Education program and in his corporate life. He has told stories at And I Am Not Lying, Real Characters, The Liar Show, and more, and he has appeared on Scientific American’s Science Talk podcast.

Original Theme Song by Sir Siljian

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Ep. 2 - Valentine's Day