This is a bonus episode!
On our show in Washington DC this April 2018 we had a blast talking love with dating expert Erika Ettin, Other Men Need Help Podcast producer Mark Pagan and comedian Gastor Almonte. It was so much fun that we HAD to share it with you, hope you enjoy it!
This show was hosted by Singleling’s Vanessa Valerio and Singleling’s dear friend the hilarious Cara Foran, producer of The Perfect Liars Club DC.
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This is a bonus episode!
Love happens in different ways, and sometimes we end up in long distance relationships... not ideal situations, but what can we tell the heart?... the heart always wants what it wants.
Tami Gatta is an experienced creative arts therapist in the New York, and today she tells us her point of view of long distance relationships and gives us a few tips on how to keep them alive.
Joe Charnitski tells us about what is like dating in New York... distance might be a make it or break thing. He is a two-time Moth Story Slam winner and has been featured on The Moth Podcast. His solo show Joe Charnitski's Funeral won "Best of Fringe" award on the 2017 Capital Fringe in Washington DC. You can go see his show this October 1, 2018 as part of United Solo Theatre Festival.
Meghann Perry is a certified addiction recovery coach, actor, storyteller and teaching artist. She works with adolescents and adults seeking recovery from addiction, and loves to combine her background in the performing arts and her work with this population in her many projects like Improbable Players, Recovery Storytelling, and the Moving Stories Foundation.
Johnathan Appel started performing comedy while living in Taiwan and has performed most venues in New York City. He also works as an education fellow and teaching artist for “Story Pirates!”.
Nicole Ferraro has performed in storytelling shows all over the east coast, her personal essays can be found at The New York Times, Modern Loss and The New York press. She is the co-host of The New York Story Exchange. Her solo show Why So Much Shame debuted at 2016 Frigid Festival with rave reviews and earned three awards. She produces Art, Humanity and Action, a series of storytelling for social justice and fundraising.
Vanessa Valerio is the producer of Singleling, and is always looking for love stories so if you have one contact us Vanessa@wearesingleling.com
Music by Twintapes.
Special thanks to:
Happy Hour Story Hour show in New York City for letting us record Johnathan's story.
This episode of Singleling showcases stories about young loves. The first love that drove us crazy in many different ways.
On this episode:
Courtney Weber is a Wiccan Priestess, writer, Tarot Adviser, and metaphysical teacher living in McMinnville, OR. She is the author of Brigid: History, Mystery, and Magick of the Celtic Goddess and the forthcoming Tarot for One: The Art of Reading for Yourself. She is also the producer and designer of Tarot of the Boroughs, a contemporary photographic Tarot deck set in New York City.
Becca Beberaggi is a NYC based writer, comedian and performer. She has written for Elite Daily, XOJan, Paste Magazine and others, her sketch can be seen on Funny or Die. She has appeared at the Brooklyn Comedy Festival.
Boo Trundle is a novelist and short story writer, a blogger, and a recording artist. Also a seeker of solace through high art, low art, and Eastern philosophy. Gullible, random, exposed, and weighty, as needed.
Vanessa Golembewski is a TV writer and producer. She hosts a monthly comedy storytelling show called "Before The Internet." You can see her work in The Onion, Above Average, and a bunch of lady magazines.
Bobby Hankinson is a Brooklyn-based writer, performer and creative. You can see him hosting the LGBTQ comedy and storytelling show Kweendom, a TimeOut NY and New York Times Critics’ Pick.
Your host, Vanessa Valerio is a Moth storySlam winner, native from the Dominican Republic living in Brooklyn. She performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC.
Music by Twintapes.com
This year Singleling is on tour recording live stories in some of the best venues in the country. This past April 1st we had the first one at the Black Cat in Washington DC. With performances by:
CHELSEA SHORTE is a stand-up, writer, actor and storyteller living in DC.
KEITH MELLNICK is a freelance photographer who splits his time between expat and DC living. In between his trips he performs at SpeakeasyDC, Perfect Liars Club and The Moth. His solo show “I’m not Crazy” tells the story about his Peace Corps experience in Kazakhstan.
Dating Expert ERIKA ETTIN will give us a few tips on how to navigate the world of online dating in these crazy modern dating era. She is the founder of A Little Nudge, one of the country’s preeminent online dating coach. She has been profiled on NPR, The Washington Posts, WUSA9 and AskMen.com.
JEFF SIMMERMON is a several times Moth StorySlam and GrandSlam winner, a comedian, teacher and storyteller that has appear on This American Life and The Moth’s Podcast. He is the host and producer of “And I am Not Lying”, a variety show in New York City.
VIJAI NATHAN is a comedian that has been featured at the Montreal International Comedy Festival, has performed at the Smithsonian Museum, Kennedy Center, Constitution Hall, Library of Congress and won the Artistic Excellence award from SpeakeasyDC. Her solo shows “Woman on Top: Tips from Mom, Dad and Cosmo” and “Good Girls Don’t, But Indian Girls Do” have gained attention from critics all over.
CARA FORAN is a Moth StorySlam and Grandslam winner, writer, storyteller and improviser in Washington, DC. She is the producer and cohost of The Perfect Liars Club, one of DC’s most popular storytelling shows, as well as a regular host of The Moth in DC. Her solo show about the perils of dating, “District of Cara”, debuted at the 2015 Capital Fringe Festival in DC.
VANESSA VALERIO is a Moth StorySlam winner that performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC. She is the host and producer of ‘Singleling’, she also co-hosts Party of Two, a live monthly comedy show. She is also a dating columnist for Camara Flash and the Singles Warehouse.
Online dating should not be seen as the only way that we find a potential love match, but it certainly is a very good tool that helps do that. On this month’s episode we hear online dating stories, some horrifying and some that fill our hearts with hope.
Pavel Rivera is a musician in Brooklyn, NY, creator of the electropop band Twintapes. He is also a music engineer and producer.
Anita Flores has written for Flama, Above Average, Nerve, Paste magazine, Portable TV, and Laughspin. She’s performed at The Moth, Tom Shillue’s Funny Story, and is currently on tour with Awkward Sex and the City. She has a web series called Questionable Drawings where she asks comedians weird questions and animates their responses, and she is the co-producer and host of Party of Two, a comedy show of dating stories. Follow her on Twitter at @anitajewtina
Chris is a digital marketing expert and technology entrepreneur. His experience spans a wide range of industries dealing with social media, brand strategy and community building, working closely with clients to create unique customer experiences. Chris takes his professional background and applies it to an entertaining look at today's world of dating in his podcast So, We Met Online
Avra Friedman and Daliya Karnofsky are the producers of All My Single Friends, a once monthly comedy show and live dating experience.
Avra is an actor, comedian, writer, and recent LA transplant by way of NYC. As a comic she has opened for Gilbert Gottfried and was the winner of a new talent contest at Gotham Comedy Club, NYC. Avra’s writing, acting, and stand-up have been featured on BuzzFeed, The New Yorker, Super Deluxe, Funny or Die, Elizabeth Banks' WhoHaha, Amy Poehler's Smart Girls, and more.
Daliya performs live and on the web in her original YouTube baking and love advice series “And She Bakes”, seen winning awards at festivals around the country. Daliya has also toured the world as a monologuist and relationship guru, and performed off-Broadway and abroad with NYC companies Naked in a Fishbowl, New York Theatre Workshop, Witness Relocation, Red Bull Theater, Les Freres Corbusier, and la mama e.t.c., and as a member of the T.S. Eliot US/UK Exchange with the Old Vic in London. Recent: Celia in the short film Hilde and Celia, directed by Dan Schimpf of Red Hour Films.
Matt and Jen Smith are two Midwestern who fell in love thanks to eHarmony . com
Music by Twintapes @ http://twintapes.com
We should celebrate love all year long, but for some reason we celebrate it a bit more intense during February. On this episode Vanessa talks to Kathrin Werner, a German journalist that just wrote a book of love stories, 20 stories from people all over the world.
We hear stories from:
Laura Maltz is an educator and storyteller in NYC.
Vernon Payne is a comedian from Brooklyn, NY. He got his start in Albany, NY in 2008 and since then has gone on to travel the northeast making people laugh with his particular brand of comedy. Vernon has opened for comics that have been on Comedy Central to Fox. Vernon’s diverse stand up goes from talking about growing up, sex, and race. He is a contributing writer to the comic book “Spaz Comics”.
Steven Berkowitz is a MothSLAM winner who teaches storytelling, both for the Moth’s Community Education program and in his corporate life. He has told stories at And I Am Not Lying, Real Characters, The Liar Show, and more, and he has appeared on Scientific American’s Science Talk podcast.
Original Theme Song by Sir Siljian
You can follow us on @wearesingleling
2016 has been a tough year for the whole world, deaths and hatred ruled this year. However, we should not get stuck in negative thoughts and actions, we should always try to see the glass half full… On this episode we hear from strong women as they tell us the happy events of their lives during this shit show of year 2016:
My grandmother, Filpa Mejia.
Jean Le Bec is a grandmother and storyteller that performs all over New York.
Athalie Paynting is a former semi-pro wrestler turned sales executive, turned storyteller, turned sexual counselor.
Shruti is a recent graduate from Iowa State Architecture University and is living her dream.
Julia Whitehouse is a writer, performer and storyteller based in NYC. She has performed all over New York and is the host of Happy Hour Story Hour.
And stay until the end for a special hello from my cutie nephew, Noah Zambrano.
- Sandi Marx (The Moth, Savage LoveCast)
- Mark Pagan (Peach Fuzzy, ManKind)
- Steve Whyte (The Moth, Magnet Theater)
- Selena Coppock (Bravo’s Guide To, NYTVows)
But we really want YOU to be there! So we are giving away two tickets so you and a friend or a date can come and enjoy the show with us. All you have to do is tell us, on the comments below, what is your favorite episode and why?... we will pick the winner on January 9th.
Everyone needs love and sex and sometimes we compromise with just sex and get in a friends with benefits relationship, however this situation is not for everyone… Today on Singleling we see different friends with benefits scenarios.
I. I don’t want a Friend with benefits
Not everyone wants a friends with benefit relationship, storyteller David Arroyo tells us about a time a girl misunderstood his interest in being just friends.
II. Why is sex so important?
Sexologist Randi Levinson explains why we need sex and how is it that sometimes some of us cant separate sex and emotions.
III. Friends with benefits… not that great after all
Comedian, storyteller and storytelling instructor for The Story Studio, Gail Thomas tells us that sometimes Mr. Maybe is not
IV. A rare case of love
Isabel’s happy ending.
When two people decide to form an union of some kind it can be challenging to make things work smoothly, because of the way that both people were raised, because of their background or even their language… However in today’s dating scene language and culture are not the only barriers that singles are facing, texting, corporal language and online dating are some of the things that we have to deal with and overcome when trying to effectively communicate in this modern age.
On this episode Vanessa talks to Mark Pagan, a storyteller, multimedia artist and fellow Latino, about how the mix of the Latin fire with the pragmatic American style, make an excellent balance.
Michele Carlo. A native New Yorker, performer, storyteller and author of Fish out of Agua. www.michelecarlo.com
Pierce McManus is a Washington DC based storyteller and co-host of The Perfect Liars Club. www.piercemcmanus.com
Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, the preeminent online dating coach in the US, and "the new voice of online dating." A Little Nudge has been profiled on NPR, the Washington Post, WUSA9, and AskMen.com. Erika is also JDate's leading expert, has been a featured columnist on Philly.com, and her weekly column syndicated through the Chicago Tribune. Her book, Love at First Site, has also received high acclaim.
Bryant and Francis Gross. Vanessa’s Dominican aunt and her American husband talk about their multicultural love.
Break ups are tough… we all go through them and sooner or later we move on from those relationships and feelings. On this episode we hear stories of how social media amplifies the sadness of a break up, how we build a case against the ex’s new love without knowing the other side of the coin, and we hear two sides of dishonest relationships.
David Lawson: A writer and performer in NYC that has appeared on Risk!, Mortified, Mara Wilson’s What are you Afraid of and many others.
Steve Whyte: A drummer, storyteller and improviser in NYC.
Jefferson Bites: is an artist and storyteller, host of Foreplay, a storytelling show featuring sex, love and desire stories.
Prya Chavez is a lawyer in New York City.
This episode was produced in collaboration with It’s Not Personal, an anthology of female dating experiences, created and organized by Sara Radin and Vanessa Gattinella.
Summer is ending but probably not without fun and great memories… and a lot of the times those memories involved summer flings. On this episode we listen to stories of how summer plays an important part in love and dating. Stories about young love, college years, sex, online dating and real love.
Tracey Segara is a Moth Story Slam winner that started her career in New York as a reporter and now is the marketing director of a top communication agency and in her free time writes and performs all over town and produces the storytelling show “Now You’re Talking” in Long Island.
Meredith Whipple is a digital communication specialist and a storyteller, improviser and a music performer in Washington DC.
Elyse Wanshel is an associate editor for the Huffington Post and during her free time she performs stories all over New York.
Greg DeLucia started his career in television production and now is a writer, social media editor, storyteller and producer for the storytelling show “Family Dinner” in New York City.
At least once in our lives we have had a big crush on a friend, and chances are that we ended up being heartbroken because our love is not reciprocated. Today on Singleling we talk about the infamous friend zone that we want to avoid so bad.
Being a teenager in love of that perfect girl that is everything, but in reality… is not. Sam Dingman, a storyteller, podcaster, improviser and Moth GrandSlam winner, tells us a story about his teenage love, which basically is an episode of Dawson’s Creek.
How can we get out of that pink color area that is the friend zone?... Rupert Eyles, a storyteller from the UK, tells us how he went from being the principal friend to a married man.
I get a free and fun therapy session from Tami Gatta, a therapist in Brooklyn that uses creative outlets as part of her therapy healing treatments.
The friend zone from the eyes of Tarik Daniels, a fabulous guy comedian in NYC.
After the storm, there comes the calm. Angela, a fashion designer in Miami tells us how she fell in love with her soulmate.
One Night Stands
Having casual sex is ok, but for me, growing up in a religious and very closed minded environment and culture, one night stands were some what of a taboo, so I wanted to learn how other people in this modern world see one night stands.
On this episode I first talked to Athalie, who is getting ready to start her Masters degree in Human Sexuality and whom gave me her opinion on why some people are better at causal sex than some of us. Secondly Bobby will tell us how technology is completely changing the way we can get sex. And last but certainly not least, Susan and Jamie gives us heartful stories of what could happen after a one night stand.
On this episode:
Special thanks to Andrea Mustain, consultant content editor
The Way We Met
People always ask me where can they meet people to date and I tell them what I do, I go to a lot of events, I get involved in many activities and I also do online dating… but I feel that I am not the right person to answer this question because despite of all the things that I do to meet a potential romantic partner, I am still single… So on this episode we hear stories of how people that have healthy and loving relationships met.
Host and Producer: Vanessa Valerio
AC (aka, the coolest cab driver in town)
Sandi Marx + Keith Marshall
Music by: Sir-Silljian
Special thanks to:
And everyone that filled out the “The Way We Met” survey and answered our Facebook questions
“Ghosting” is becoming a popular unpleasant trend, and it is not limited to only one gender or a certain age range, pretty much everyone is doing it… but why? And how is this trend affecting us? On this episode we listen to how women see the “ghosting” phenomenon and how it is affecting them… a look at only one side of the equation.
Hosted by: Vanessa Valerio
Advice from: Krissy Dolor
Director of Dating at eFlirt.com
Production: Vanessa Valerio
Sound Editor: Roland Vajs
“Ghosting” is becoming a popular unpleasant trend, and it is not limited to only one gender or a certain age range, pretty much everyone is doing it… but why? And how is this trend affecting us? On this episode we listen to how men see the “ghosting” phenomenon and how it is affecting them… a look at only one side of the equation.
Hosted by: Vanessa Valerio
Stories by: Nisse Greenberg
Paul Della Guardia
Sound Editor: Pavel Rivera
Sometimes we do crazy things for love and for the people we want to impress. This episode features four stories of different crazy, embarrassing and romantic things we do for love.
Stories by Cagla Ulusoy , Sina Ozbudun, Keith Mellnick and Alejandro Arias.
Host/Producer: Vanessa Valerio
Sound Mixer: Pavel Rivera
How is online dating changing our dating encounters and social interactions?
This episode features opinions, comments and stories by Vanessa Valerio, Jimmy Lyons, Merve Poyraz, Amy Dixon, Davine Ker, David Hu and Sarah Chandler.
Host/producer: Vanessa Valerio
Sound Editor/producer: Pavel Rivera