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Episode 19: Pride Love

To end the month of June we wanted to celebrate love with our beloved LGTBQ community, showcasing some coming out stories by good friends of Singleling. On this episode:

Danny ArteseIn addition to co-hosting A Very Special Episode, Danny Artese has won a Moth StorySlam and performed at Nights of Our Lives and Talk Therapy Stories. He is currently re-reading the entire Sweet Valley High series and chronicling it on

Jamie Brickhouse (three-time Moth SLAM champion) debuted his solo show, Dangerous When Wet: Booze, Sex, and My Mother at the 2017 FRIGID Festival off-off-Broadway in New York City. Ripped from the pages of his critically acclaimed memoir that Interview magazine called “as funny as an evening with Carrie Fisher,” and Paul Rudnick praised as “witty, blisteringly honest, and wickedly intoxicating,” it sparkled under the direction of Obie Award-winning David Drake. It won the "Audience Choice Award," was featured on "Page Six" of the New York Post, was a Theater is Easy "Best Bet," and received rave reviews from NY Theater Guide, Theater is Easy, and Hi! Drama.

Eduardo Llinas is an urban designer from Puerto Rico living in New York.

Tami Gatta is a therapist in New York City. She uses art, drama and storytelling to treat patients whom have suffer from severe trauma.

Music borrowed from Robyn.

Hosted and produced by Vanessa Valerio.

Episode 18 - First Kisses

Today we hear stories of first kisses because for me a first kiss can be the reflection of the chemistry that the two people have with each other… A kiss is powerful and the first kiss is very important and the first turning point of a potential relationship.

Stories by:

Natalie Wall is the creator/producer of “Awkward Sex… and the City”, which showcases comedians with hilarious awkward sexual tales. She writes for Redbook Magazine and specifically for Sex and Relationships. In 2015 she co-founded “Bad Assery: The Woman and Comedy Conference”. She performs stand-up all around New York City and hosts her brand new show “Sex! With your Mom”, the adult sex-ed game show.

Jean LeBec  is a storyteller in New York City, she is a Moth StorySlam champion and performs in shows like Risk, where she will be this June 28th at The Bell House.

Caitlin Brodnick is a performer on Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre's Maude Night. She performs sketch, standup, and storytelling regularly in New York City and Los Angeles. She is a writer for, and a blogger for Huffington Post. Her stories have been featured on the MOTH podcast, and quoted by the AV Club

Music by Twintapes (

Your Host Vanessa Valerio is a native from Dominican Republic and currently lives in Brooklyn, NY. She was trained at the People’s Improv Theater in NYC and has performed all over the East coast. She is a Moth StorySlam Champ and the creator of Singleling. She also co-produces and co-hosts Party of Two, a monthly live comedy show in New York.

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Episode 17 - DC Live Show


This year Singleling is on tour recording live stories in some of the best venues in the country. This past April 1st we had the first one at the Black Cat in Washington DC. With performances by:

CHELSEA SHORTE is a stand-up, writer, actor and storyteller living in DC.

KEITH MELLNICK is a freelance photographer who splits his time between expat and DC living. In between his trips he performs at SpeakeasyDC, Perfect Liars Club and The Moth. His solo show “I’m not Crazy” tells the story about his Peace Corps experience in Kazakhstan.

Dating Expert ERIKA ETTIN will give us a few tips on how to navigate the world of online dating in these crazy modern dating era. She is the founder of A Little Nudge, one of the country’s preeminent online dating coach. She has been profiled on NPR, The Washington Posts, WUSA9 and

JEFF SIMMERMON is a several times Moth StorySlam and GrandSlam winner, a comedian, teacher and storyteller that has appear on This American Life and The Moth’s Podcast. He is the host and producer of “And I am Not Lying”, a variety show in New York City.

VIJAI NATHAN is a comedian that has been featured at the Montreal International Comedy Festival, has performed at the Smithsonian Museum, Kennedy Center, Constitution Hall, Library of Congress and won the Artistic Excellence award from SpeakeasyDC. Her solo shows “Woman on Top: Tips from Mom, Dad and Cosmo” and “Good Girls Don’t, But Indian Girls Do” have gained attention from critics all over.

The Hosts:

CARA FORAN is a Moth StorySlam and Grandslam winner, writer, storyteller and improviser in Washington, DC. She is the producer and cohost of The Perfect Liars Club, one of DC’s most popular storytelling shows, as well as a regular host of The Moth in DC. Her solo show about the perils of dating, “District of Cara”, debuted at the 2015 Capital Fringe Festival in DC.

VANESSA VALERIO is a Moth StorySlam winner that performs stories about her time living in Europe, her childhood in the Caribbean, and her crazy life as a 30-something single woman in NYC. She is the host and producer of ‘Singleling’, she also co-hosts Party of Two, a live monthly comedy show. She is also a dating columnist for Camara Flash and the Singles Warehouse.

Ep. 16 Online / Offline

Online dating should not be seen as the only way that we find a potential love match, but it certainly is a very good tool that helps do that. On this month’s episode we hear online dating stories, some horrifying and some that fill our hearts with hope.

Guest star:

Pavel Rivera is a musician in Brooklyn, NY, creator of the electropop band Twintapes. He is also a music engineer and producer.

Stories by:

Anita Flores has written for Flama, Above Average, Nerve, Paste magazine, Portable TV, and Laughspin. She’s performed at The Moth, Tom Shillue’s Funny Story, and is currently on tour with Awkward Sex and the City. She has a web series called Questionable Drawings where she asks comedians weird questions and animates their responses, and she is the co-producer and host of Party of Two, a comedy show of dating stories. Follow her on Twitter at @anitajewtina

Chris is a digital marketing expert and technology entrepreneur. His experience spans a wide range of industries dealing with social media, brand strategy and community building, working closely with clients to create unique customer experiences. Chris takes his professional background and applies it to an entertaining look at today's world of dating in his podcast So, We Met Online

Avra Friedman and Daliya Karnofsky are the producers of All My Single Friends, a once monthly comedy show and live dating experience.


Avra is an actor, comedian, writer, and recent LA transplant by way of NYC. As a comic she has opened for Gilbert Gottfried and was the winner of a new talent contest at Gotham Comedy Club, NYC. Avra’s writing, acting, and stand-up have been featured on BuzzFeed, The New Yorker, Super Deluxe, Funny or Die, Elizabeth Banks' WhoHaha, Amy Poehler's Smart Girls, and more.


Daliya performs live and on the web in her original YouTube baking and love advice series “And She Bakes”, seen winning awards at festivals around the country.  Daliya has also toured the world as a monologuist and relationship guru, and performed off-Broadway and abroad with NYC companies Naked in a Fishbowl, New York Theatre Workshop, Witness Relocation, Red Bull Theater, Les Freres Corbusier, and la mama e.t.c., and as a member of the T.S. Eliot US/UK Exchange with the Old Vic in London.  Recent: Celia in the short film Hilde and Celia, directed by Dan Schimpf of Red Hour Films.


Matt and Jen Smith are two Midwestern who fell in love thanks to eHarmony . com

Music by Twintapes @


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Ep. 15 Love Stories

We should celebrate love all year long, but for some reason we celebrate it a bit more intense during February. On this episode Vanessa talks to Kathrin Werner, a German journalist that just wrote a book of love stories, 20 stories from people all over the world.

We hear stories from:

Laura Maltz is an educator and storyteller in NYC.

Vernon Payne is a comedian from Brooklyn, NY. He got his start in Albany, NY in 2008 and since then has gone on to travel the northeast making people laugh with his particular brand of comedy. Vernon has opened for comics that have been on Comedy Central to Fox. Vernon’s diverse stand up goes from talking about growing up, sex, and race. He is a contributing writer to the comic book “Spaz Comics”.

Steven Berkowitz is a MothSLAM winner who teaches storytelling, both for the Moth’s Community Education program and in his corporate life. He has told stories at And I Am Not Lying, Real Characters, The Liar Show, and more, and he has appeared on Scientific American’s Science Talk podcast.

Original Theme Song by Sir Siljian

You can follow us on @wearesingleling

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Ep. 14 Happy Things

2016 has been a tough year for the whole world, deaths and hatred ruled this year. However, we should not get stuck in negative thoughts and actions, we should always try to see the glass half full… On this episode we hear from strong women as they tell us the happy events of their lives during this shit show of year 2016:

My grandmother, Filpa Mejia.

Jean Le Bec is a grandmother and storyteller that performs all over New York.

Athalie Paynting is a former semi-pro wrestler turned sales executive, turned storyteller, turned sexual counselor.

Shruti is a recent graduate from Iowa State Architecture University and is living her dream.

Julia Whitehouse is a writer, performer and storyteller based in NYC. She has performed all over New York and is the host of Happy Hour Story Hour.

And stay until the end for a special hello from my cutie nephew, Noah Zambrano.


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Singleling Anniversary Show

In January we turn one! And we are celebrating it with a live recording of our show on January 11 at The Kraine Theater at 8:45pm. Stories will be told by some of our favorite storytellers:
  • Sandi Marx (The Moth, Savage LoveCast)
  • Mark Pagan (Peach Fuzzy, ManKind)
  • Steve Whyte (The Moth, Magnet Theater)
  • Selena Coppock (Bravo’s Guide To, NYTVows)

And a special segment with matchmaker Erika Ettin from A Little Nudge.

Tickets are $15 and you can purchase them HERE.

But we really want YOU to be there! So we are giving away two tickets so you and a friend or a date can come and enjoy the show with us. All you have to do is tell us, on the comments below, what is your favorite episode and why?... we will pick the winner on January 9th.

Ps. All proceeds will be donated to Planned Parenthood.

Ep. 13 Friends with Benefits

Everyone needs love and sex and sometimes we compromise with just sex and get in a friends with benefits relationship, however this situation is not for everyone… Today on Singleling we see different friends with benefits scenarios.


I. I don’t want a Friend with benefits

Not everyone wants a friends with benefit relationship, storyteller David Arroyo tells us about a time a girl misunderstood his interest in being just friends.


II. Why is sex so important?

Sexologist Randi Levinson explains why we need sex and how is it that sometimes some of us cant separate sex and emotions.


III. Friends with benefits… not that great after all

Comedian, storyteller and storytelling instructor for The Story Studio, Gail Thomas tells us that sometimes Mr. Maybe is not


IV. A rare case of love

Isabel’s happy ending.


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Ep. 12 Lost in Translation

When two people decide to form an union of some kind it can be challenging to make things work smoothly, because of the way that both people were raised, because of their background or even their language… However in today’s dating scene language and culture are not the only barriers that singles are facing, texting, corporal language and online dating are some of the things that we have to deal with and overcome when trying to effectively communicate in this modern age.

On this episode Vanessa talks to Mark Pagan, a storyteller, multimedia artist and fellow Latino, about how the mix of the Latin fire with the pragmatic American style, make an excellent balance.


Stories by: 

Michele Carlo. A native New Yorker, performer, storyteller and author of Fish out of Agua. 

Pierce McManus is a Washington DC based storyteller and co-host of The Perfect Liars Club.



Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, the preeminent online dating coach in the US, and "the new voice of online dating." A Little Nudge has been profiled on NPR, the Washington Post, WUSA9, and Erika is also JDate's leading expert, has been a featured columnist on, and her weekly column syndicated through the Chicago Tribune. Her book, Love at First Site, has also received high acclaim.

Bryant and Francis Gross. Vanessa’s Dominican aunt and her American husband talk about their multicultural love.





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Ep. 11 Break-Ups

Break ups are tough… we all go through them and sooner or later we move on from those relationships and feelings. On this episode we hear stories of how social media amplifies the sadness of a break up, how we build a case against the ex’s new love without knowing the other side of the coin, and we hear two sides of dishonest relationships.

Stories by:

David Lawson: A writer and performer in NYC that has appeared on Risk!, Mortified, Mara Wilson’s What are you Afraid of and many others.

Steve Whyte: A drummer, storyteller and improviser in NYC.

Jefferson Bites: is an artist and storyteller, host of Foreplay, a storytelling show featuring sex, love and desire stories.

Prya Chavez is a lawyer in New York City.

This episode was produced in collaboration with It’s Not Personal, an anthology of female dating experiences, created and organized by Sara Radin and Vanessa Gattinella.





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Ep. 10 Summer Flings

Summer is ending but probably not without fun and great memories… and a lot of the times those memories involved summer flings. On this episode we listen to stories of how summer plays an important part in love and dating. Stories about young love, college years, sex, online dating and real love.

Stories by:

Tracey Segara is a Moth Story Slam winner that started her career in New York as a reporter and now is the marketing director of a top communication agency and in her free time writes and performs all over town and produces the storytelling show “Now You’re Talking” in Long Island.

Meredith Whipple is a digital communication specialist and a storyteller, improviser and a music performer in Washington DC.

Elyse Wanshel is an associate editor for the Huffington Post and during her free time she performs stories all over New York.

Greg DeLucia started his career in television production and now is a writer, social media editor, storyteller and producer for the storytelling show “Family Dinner” in New York City.



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Ep. 9 The Friend Zone

At least once in our lives we have had a big crush on a friend, and chances are that we ended up being heartbroken because our love is not reciprocated. Today on Singleling we talk about the infamous friend zone that we want to avoid so bad.


Being a teenager in love of that perfect girl that is everything, but in reality… is not. Sam Dingman, a storyteller, podcaster, improviser and Moth GrandSlam winner, tells us a story about his teenage love, which basically is an episode of Dawson’s Creek.


How can we get out of that pink color area that is the friend zone?... Rupert Eyles, a storyteller from the UK, tells us how he went from being the principal friend to a married man.


I get a free and fun therapy session from Tami Gatta, a therapist in Brooklyn that uses creative outlets as part of her therapy healing treatments.


The friend zone from the eyes of Tarik Daniels, a fabulous guy comedian in NYC.


After the storm, there comes the calm. Angela, a fashion designer in Miami tells us how she fell in love with her soulmate.


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Ep. 8 One Night Stands

One Night Stands

Having casual sex is ok, but for me, growing up in a religious and very closed minded environment and culture, one night stands were some what of a taboo, so I wanted to learn how other people in this modern world see one night stands.

On this episode I first talked to Athalie, who is getting ready to start her Masters degree in Human Sexuality and whom gave me her opinion on why some people are better at causal sex than some of us. Secondly Bobby will tell us how technology is completely changing the way we can get sex. And last but certainly not least, Susan and Jamie gives us heartful stories of what could happen after a one night stand.


On this episode:

Athalie Pathing

Bobby Hankinson

Susan Kent

Jamie Brickhouse


Special thanks to Andrea Mustain, consultant content editor


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Ep. 7 The Way We Met

The Way We Met

People always ask me where can they meet people to date and I tell them what I do, I go to a lot of events, I get involved in many activities and I also do online dating… but I feel that I am not the right person to answer this question because despite of all the things that I do to meet a potential romantic partner, I am still single… So on this episode we hear stories of how people that have healthy and loving relationships met.


Host and Producer: Vanessa Valerio

Stories by:

                                    AC (aka, the coolest cab driver in town)

                                    Elena Pirazzo

                                    Jason Chen

                                    Amber Guesa

                                    Claire Surgenor

                                    Sandi Marx + Keith Marshall


Music by:                         Sir-Silljian


Special thanks to:



And everyone that filled out the “The Way We Met” survey and answered our Facebook questions


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Ep. 6 Ghosting Part 2

“Ghosting” is becoming a popular unpleasant trend, and it is not limited to only one gender or a certain age range, pretty much everyone is doing it… but why? And how is this trend affecting us? On this episode we listen to how women see the “ghosting” phenomenon and how it is affecting them… a look at only one side of the equation.


Hosted by:                    Vanessa Valerio

Stories by:           

                                    Ruth Dreyer

                                    Rebecca Bly

                                    Jennifer McKnight

                                    Vanessa Valerio


Advice from:                 Krissy Dolor

                                    Director of Dating at


Production:                  Vanessa Valerio

Sound Editor:               Roland Vajs

Music:                          Sir-Siljian


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Ep. 5 - Ghosting Part 1

“Ghosting” is becoming a popular unpleasant trend, and it is not limited to only one gender or a certain age range, pretty much everyone is doing it… but why? And how is this trend affecting us? On this episode we listen to how men see the “ghosting” phenomenon and how it is affecting them… a look at only one side of the equation.


Hosted by:                    Vanessa Valerio

Stories by:                    Nisse Greenberg

                                    Mike Mercadal

                                    Siljian Silfa

                                    Paul Della Guardia

Sound Editor:                 Pavel Rivera

Music:                           Twintapes


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Ep. 4 - Things we do for Love

Sometimes we do crazy things for love and for the people we want to impress. This episode features four stories of different crazy, embarrassing and romantic things we do for love.

Stories by Cagla Ulusoy , Sina Ozbudun, Keith Mellnick and Alejandro Arias.

Host/Producer: Vanessa Valerio

Sound Mixer: Pavel Rivera

Music: Twintapes

IG: @wearesingleling

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Ep. 3 Online Dating

How is online dating changing our dating encounters and social interactions?

This episode features opinions, comments and stories by Vanessa Valerio, Jimmy Lyons, Merve Poyraz, Amy Dixon, Davine Ker, David Hu and Sarah Chandler.

Host/producer: Vanessa Valerio

Sound Editor/producer: Pavel Rivera

Music: Twintapes

IG: wearesingleling

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